I am so thrilled to be sharing my new website with you—my friends, family, collaborators, and community.

This heart explosion is a very accurate representation of how I’m feeling right now!

Which is saying something, because I certainly did not start out feeling that way…

I’ve wanted to create a website where people feel warmly welcomed and are invited into a calm, clear, grounded, and friendly space to learn about the work I do for … I’m guessing, somewhere around three years!

So to share this with you today feels like both a huge outer accomplishment and a testament to the inner work of IFS Therapy!

To be honest, what took me three years to get to this point was that my fear was in the driver’s seat. I was doing everything I could to grab the wheel from it, which just made it hold on that much harder.

As a Therapist, my comfort zone is helping others feel seen, heard, and understood.

To step into the limelight and ask you to listen to what I have to say can be terrifying for the younger parts of me who fear being seen and heard.

Especially when what I’m asking you to hear is something I care so deeply about. I want to help people who are stuck at a crossroads. And the reality is that they can’t find me if I’m not sharing what I do with you. Asking you to share this with people is a vulnerable leap in this part of my journey!

In reflection, three critical decisions flew me over the threshold and allowed me to stand here today, proud of who and where I am, and genuinely excited to have my website shared as widely as possible.

I want to share them with you here.

#1 Asking to receive acknowledgment that my work with people is improving their lives.

It took me almost as long to make a website as it did to ask for testimonials! I can’t believe what a difference it made for me to ask people what difference I was making for THEM.

Someone once told me, “Mary Jane, people are waiting to know you’re out there.” Hearing it helped me know that I have something valuable to offer. If I don’t claim what I do, share that with people, and make it clear and straightforward for people to work with me, they won’t.

So, this was the first step because it enabled me to say, “Ok, I don’t know how I’m going to do this, but I know it’s important, and I want to figure out how.” It also allowed me to get clear about the support I needed to make it happen.

#2 I hired someone I trust to see, guide, and champion my work getting out into the world.

I knew I couldn’t do it alone and needed someone who could get my website done well and had the IFS framework to support me through what I knew would be inevitable roadblocks as my fear got louder.

For me, this was my daughter, Gillian. Her curiosity, guidance through the process, writing skills, and design sense helped to birth my truth into the world.

Hiring someone with knowledge of the territory I was traversing with the skills to help me get through enabled me to move efficiently from “what the hell do I do here?” to “hey, this actually isn’t so bad and maybe even feels good!”

#3 I did the work I do with others with myself.

I started working with an IFS practitioner, getting trained in IFS, and applying it daily to my life.

While in my Level One IFS certification, I spent many sessions discussing the desire to get the word out to potential clients about my work.

I would be clear in our calls that “I’m so ready for this!” and then hang up and feel completely frozen. Like that clarity was in another hemisphere of the planet even though I was there just two minutes ago.

Doing IFS allowed me to get to know the parts of me that do NOT want change and growth just as much as the ones that do.

Instead of being on this epic road trip of life and trying to grab the wheel from fear and slamming on the brakes all the time, I began to feed my fear snacks, letting them choose the music, asking them to tell me about what it’s like to be so afraid and why they show up for me at these times. Over time, they began to admit that they didn’t like white-knuckling the steering wheel. And hey, they’re only five years old and shouldn’t be driving a car anyway!

Gradually, I asked if they might want to be a passenger instead and learn to trust my driving, and they began to open up and allow me to get us to beautiful scenery where we would much rather be relaxing, playing, and just having a great time.

I share all this because I know that you (or someone you know and love) have powerful images of where you would like to be. The vision might even be conflicting at times. And you also know that, in some way, little fearful parts of you are in the driver’s seat, and you’d like some help relieving them of that burdensome role.

I know what that is like because I’ve lived it. And I can say with complete confidence that IFS Coaching is designed for you to get to where you want to be with all of your parts on board. No need to try and kick anyone out of the car on the way.

If you feel inspired by this site and resonate with what I’m sharing, I invite you to sign up for a complimentary 30-minute alignment call or pass the site along to someone whose dreams you believe in and who needs some support fulfilling them.

I’m so grateful you are here, rooting me on, and I hope that in this reflective time of year, no matter how you feel you showed up this year, you can rest in knowing that all parts of you are lovable.

Especially the little ones who need some help at the wheel.

Welcome to my revised website!